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Panic & Anxiety of EMPTY NEST SYNDROME

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EMPTY NEST SYNDROME

Are you struggling with your eldest child leaving for university…

What is Empty Nest Syndrome?

Bags packed for university , Anxiety Hypnosis The Nexus Team can help Empty Nest Syndrome is a time when a child leaves the home to move away to university. This can be a heart wrenching time for both parents but especially for the mother. The shock of you being around your child for 18 years and now they have moved out can leave you feeling empty inside.

Although no one has died the same symptoms of grief and heartache are very much felt particularly within a loving family.

This is in every way a new chapter in life, how everyone has to adjust to the new challenges that life has brought you.

The Feeling of Grief.

There is a bag of mixed feelings surrounding the whole situation of what is happening. On one part you have to be happy that they are doing well and thriving, as well as being educated in their chosen field of knowledge. Of course with this double edged sword, you have the negative emotion that just seems to overwhelm the positives especially to begin with.

The feeling of loss and the emptiness in the house at certain times and the things you shared has this could be a time when you no longer have your child’s friends coming around either.

What Can You Do About It…

If you have experienced grief before, then you will recognise the similarity in the emotional feelings. It’s not good to hold onto the negative feelings, as indeed men (fathers) may do. Feeling like an emotional wreck right now, may feel like you’ll never get rid of this.

I think that you should give yourself permission to cry, and parents should be encouraged to express this together if their relationship can do this. This isn’t about a weakness but recognising that you are both feeling the same and this can be your strength. Although one part of the relationship may feel stronger and keep a sense of reality and calmness within the house hold.

Never feel bad about how you feel even though you think that it’s silly as this emotion needs to come out of you so that the healing can take place. It’s okay to avoid the negativity for a while as you don’t want to burst into tears while in the shops.

Your Time To Change.

You have the opportunity to rediscover yourself, but this may be hard as you have probably been at the beck and call for the family for many years. It is important that you have new challenges in your life, this will have to be your calling so to speak as everyone is different and you have to do what feels right.

You don’t have to have a a knee jerk reaction to doing whatever comes along. This could be joining a group with like minded interests. You can even start one of your own. There is an App called ‘meet-up’ as this can also be a way of you getting over your fears of either going out or being allowed to learn how to be you once more.

Anxious Times Ahead!

This can be an understatement of how you feel right now. Once you get over the initial shock and time moves on you will soon realise how time distortion kicks in and before you know it, they are on their way back home and you will be wondering why you felt the way you did.

In the meantime however, as all the new students at Birmingham University and of course the many universities around the country, students are all equally leaving grief stricken parents everywhere. Your kids are possibly feeling the same way, but they have new surrounding and new interests and certainly their new found freedom. So these kids are distracted to say the least, while you are at home crying your eyes out.

This is all natural, but this still leaves you feeling anxious because of wondering if they are okay and not getting into trouble etc…

Anxiety Hypnosis.

As I have mentioned that anxiety, fear, stress and grief play a major part in the overall well-being of you, that said if you don’t deal with this, then you too will suffer. It is documented that mothers particularly can get breast cancer and even brain legends** or scaring on the brain because of the child leaving home for the first time. Of course kids can leave home many times, if they are in a career that calls them away for months at-a-time.

You may feel like you only want to talk about how you feel and that’s okay, also you may want to try hypnosis to get a better understanding of yourself. This could be to help you find confidence to go out and face the world as a new you.

The Nexus Team can also offer EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) ,this is a great way to help get your brain and especially your mind to cope better with the present situation. This also helps people with that grief feeling.
Anxiety Hypnosis also helps you by allowing the mind to readjust to the new immediate difficulties and help get you away from feeling like an emotional wreck. But you don’t have to feel at your worst to see me as you can have a free complimentary consultation to be accessed to see whether you would benefit from my help.

Help is Here.

If you need or require some help with either talk therapy or hypnotherapy to help you with how you are feeling right now and you live in and around the Birmingham area of Walsall etc. then contact The Nexus Team.

Give me a call to find out more, also I will help you every step of the way to help you with your recovery by helping you feel calm and confident. Helping to get you back in control, or contact me to help you with your particular situation and I will answer any questions you have.
Until then you can download my free 7 tips on how to Axe-Anxiety. Click HERE. Also get talking to family and friends to help put yourself at ease and soon everything will start to ease.

To Sum up.

Congratulate yourself for getting your child to be able to get into university and this is what you have all been working towards. Also that they are probably having a good time and this is a time when we all have mobiles and can easily stay in touch also with social media. Feel sad and cry if you need to, but don’t stay there and move forward. This was bound to happen but notice that it will become less traumatic each day and the rawness will fade. Above all don’t be to hard on yourself as you might have other children who need you attention more then ever now.

The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis offers a range of therapies that can suit you as not everyone wants to be hypnotised..

Anxiety Hypnosis Helping You Towards Success.

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CLAUSTROPHOBIA: Suffers in Birmingham & Walsall Anxiety Hypnosis

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CLAUSTROPHOBIA AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT

The fear of small spaces

lift CLAUSTROPHOBIA SUFFERS IN BIRMINGHAM & WALSALL ANXIETY HYPNOSISClaustrophobia, or to use its common name, the fear of small spaces, is an anxiety related disorder that often brings on panic attacks when an individual finds themselves in an enclosed or confined space such as an elevator, train, aircraft or even a small room. The fear usually stems from the affected individual believing that they cannot escape or “get out” from an enclosed or suffocating situation. Like most other fears or phobias, claustrophobia normally develops due to a previous experience in the sufferers’ earlier life, usually a trauma or life-threatening situation.

Surprisingly for some, claustrophobia can also be experienced in open spaces. This occurs when the sufferer is part of a large crowd or gathering and again, feels that they are unable to escape from the crowd and find their own space once again. This can occur in places such as concerts, or even inside a packed cinema.

Sufferers are normally aware that their fear is irrational, but when faced with a sudden or unexpected situation where they feel they cannot escape, they usually enter a state of panic and the fear overcomes their normal rationality.

Common Symptoms

When an enclosed space situation arises around an affected individual, the following symptoms are common:
Heavy sweating
The fear of physical or actual harm
Shaking of the limbs
Increased heart rate
Dizziness (light – headedness)
Nausea
Difficulty in breathing

Often, when an individual realizes that they suffer from claustrophobia, the symptoms can seem worse and also arise more often. The individual tends to avoid more and more areas where they feel that an enclosed situation may occur and the subsequent anticipation of a panic attack actually increases their anxiety and heightens their fears.

What can I do to overcome and manage my fear of small spaces?

The treatment of claustrophobia is very similar to that of other anxiety related fears and phobias. As claustrophobia is almost always a learned response to an enclosed space situation, it can also be un-learned just as effectively. Anxiety Hypnosis is by far the best and most successful way to control your claustrophobia and through using Anxiety Hypnosis you can not only learn to manage this fear but overcome it completely.

The Nexus Team Hypnotherapy (Anxiety Hypnosis) have been helping clients from Birmingham, Walsall and the surrounding areas, overcome claustrophobia and their fears of small spaces for many years, all in safe and comfortable surroundings.

What can I do next?

If claustrophobia has taken control of your life or the fear of small spaces is effecting the way you go about your daily schedule, then there is no better time than now to take your life back! Contact me directly at The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis and with my help and backup assistance, you can once again enjoy the freedom of life that you deserve.

Realise that therapy is a way of uncovering any conflicts that you may have had in the past or feel that you have dealt with, but to your unconscious you really haven’t dealt with them. I will help you to regain control by helping you to use your inner strength to be able to go out and explore the world once more, just as you were meant to live.

I look forward to seeing you with this or any other related problem on Panic, Anxiety, Stress, Exam Nerves, Relationship Conflicts, by helping you to build self CONFIDENCE.

So if this is your time to take control of your life then please contact me to receive a Free Compliment Consultation.
In the meantime download my free 7 tips on how to help with Axing Anxiety here 

Helping you towards success.

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ANXIETY HYPNOSIS OVERCOMING SOCIAL ANXIETY!

 

OVERCOMING SOCIAL ANXIETY!

So you have social anxiety – what can you do about it…

What is social anxiety?

light bulb & peopleWhen we think of social anxiety, we often think about different social situations that make us feel shy, self-conscious or uncomfortable. The most common example of this is the feeling of being “out of place” or “awkward” at a party or family gathering. However, there is a big difference between feeling awkward at a party and having a deep rooted feeling of despair, anxiety or panic when in the company of other people.

Not many people enjoy receiving criticism, judgement or even a compliment from others, but for some, the fear of receiving such judgements can lead to paranoia, extreme discomfort and panic attacks. In some cases, individuals have had to leave their jobs, school or colleges in order to deal with their social anxiety and in extreme cases, even limit their time out in public for fear of an anxiety panic attack!

If you have reached a level where you think that social anxiety is affecting your life, then the time to act is now! With The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis. Download my free Axe-Anxiety

Common Symptoms…

There are many symptoms of social anxiety and as with every other phobia, they vary in severity depending on the level of anxiety you are feeling.

When a sufferer of social anxiety finds themselves in a social situation that they are not comfortable in, they often experience the following:

Heavy sweating and/or blushing
Nausea
Shaking of the limbs
Nervous stuttering or stammering during conversation
Drying of the mouth
Shortness of breath
Weakness of the body
Sufferers also try to avoid any form of eye contact and make it difficult for themselves to be noticed or approached. For social anxiety sufferers, speaking in public is an almost impossible task.

What can I do to overcome, managing my social anxiety?

For the most part, social anxiety normally has a root cause. This is often a deep lying sub-conscious condition such as a previous embarrassment or traumatic life event which may have shattered your confidence, broken your trust or completely cooled your interest in the people, or in the world around you. Anxiety Hypnosis has been proven to be extremely successful in the area of overcoming social fears and allows you to analyse and understand your sub-conscious thought patterns, leading you to fully overcome any issues you may have, not just cover them up.

Anxiety Hypnosis can also restore your self-confidence and boost your self-esteem to new levels, as well as preparing you for public speaking or appearances. You may not think this would apply to you, but I can assure you at sometime in the future you will have to do some public speaking. This could be thanking people at a wedding, christening, birthday, anniversary or any other social event you can think of. So think of receiving Anxiety Hypnosis as an investment in not only now but also your future as this is a very important step to take right now.

You have probably suffered from social anxiety for many years and have tried avoidance, hiding, using excuses, but none of them have really worked for you. Take action today with using my professional services.

What can I do next?

If you are currently suffering from anxiety, panic attacks or are experiencing any of the symptoms above whilst in a social setting, you may be suffering from some form of social anxiety issue. If you find that these issues are affecting your work, studies or everyday lifestyle, then contact me at The Nexus Team Hypnosis today. With the help of my proven techniques that can work for you, you can learn to live a social anxiety free lifestyle as you can manage your anxiety or panic attack with relative ease. You can once again take control of your social anxiety issues and banish them, once and for all!

TIPS on managing your social anxiety.

1 Seek out a therapist who will help you.
2 Grow your confidence in other aspects of your life.
3 Sit in a chair, imagine playing out your worst social fears, but know you are still at home in the chair.
4 Tell others of your problem as most people are very supportive and want to help.
5 Unfortunately you will have to face your fears in order to conquer them.
6 If you’re going to a party, see if you can be the first to arrive, Then you don’t have the BIG problem of facing everyone right away.
7 Fire yourself up with high energy music or a drum beat as this will energise you and so help override the negative feelings and take this high energy music with you.
8 Last but not least, now take ACTION and if the panic feelings start, just calm down back away for a moment and regather your thoughts and go for it again. As the saying goes ‘Slowly, …slowly, …catch-a-monkey’.

If you live in the Walsall or Birmingham or surrounding areas I can provide you with 1-2-1 professional Anxiety Hypnosis Therapy. I have helped people in the Birmingham area, young and old who suffer social anxiety and I can help you. If you’re looking for an effective treatment plan to help you overcome your problem by controlling your social anxiety then please feel free to book a complimentary consultation with me The Nexus Team.

Helping you towards success.

 

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Conquer fear of spiders in Birmingham & Walsall-Anxiety Hypnosis

FINDING THE CURE FOR ARACHNOPHOBIA (THE FEAR OF SPIDERS)!

What is Arachnophobia?

Conquering the Fear of Spiders with The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis in Walsall & Birmingham.Arachnophobia, or the fear of spiders as it’s more commonly known, can be an extremely troubling phobia but on the other hand, fairly simple to resolve. The reactions brought on by the phobia itself can range drastically according to its severity, with light sufferers simply not having a strong dislike to the creepy, long-legged look of the spider to the most severe cases which can cause the affected individual to experience panic or anxiety attacks whenever they see, or even think they see a spider.
Whilst it is true that the majority of people in the UK and around the world feel uncomfortable whilst near or in the presence of a spider, the reaction from an arachnophobic when seeing or thinking about a spider can be very extreme. As with other similar phobias, the fear of spiders is often a sub-conscious fear, making the use of The Nexus Team’s Anxiety Hypnosis is the best way to banish this fear once and for all.
The fear of spiders often feels irrational to us, especially for those individuals residing in the United Kingdom, as we already know that there is not one species of spider that could actually cause us harm. However, this does not stop arachnophobia from being one of the most common fears in the country.

Common Symptoms

The Symptoms of arachnophobia are fairly consistent with general panic attacks and anxiety. A sufferer may experience the following upon encountering or thinking deeply about spiders;

Rapid Heart Rate
Nausea
Shortness Of Breath
Shaking Limbs
Dizziness

In extreme cases, individuals may not even venture into certain areas of their home or general outdoor areas in fear of encountering a spider. You may even find that an individual becomes obsessed with searching their home, especially the bedroom area at night, in order for them to sleep soundly.

What can I do to overcome and manage my fear of spiders?

As with most phobias and fears, simply managing your fear of spiders is not a long term solution to the problem and still leaves you wondering if and when the fear will return. The most successful, easiest and long-term solution for completely overcoming your fear is to use Anxiety Hypnosis.

The Nexus Team Hypnotherapy a leading expert by helping many of my clients over their fear of spiders from Birmingham, Walsall as well as all over the United Kingdom, overcome their fear of spiders for many years and my practice is always carried out in a comfortable and safe environment.

What can I do next?

If you find that your life is being affected by your fear of spiders or even if you feel a raised level of panic or anxiety when encountering one, then contact me at The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis today. With the assistance of myself and my team, you can take control of your fear once and for all and never again experience fear, panic attacks or periods of anxiety upon encountering a spider.

It is also important not to pass on your fears to a child as they can copy you and end up with the same fear. More than likely this is how you got your fear of spiders or any other creepy crawly for that matter.

Afterwards…

Imagine you’re at home and you see a spider and in a clam relaxed manner you can remove the spider with ease, also you don’t have to keep searching your house for spiders particularly when going to bed.
Your life can be so much easier when you pass your bravery test and even face your fears by eradicating the fear once and for all.

So if you’re up for the challenge of being comfortable around spiders then feel free to contact me.
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Conquering Job Interview Nerves.

JOB INTERVIEW NERVES

The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis conquering job and career nerves Birmingham Walsall

Every single individual on earth experiences an “attack of the nerves” at some point in their life. Maybe you’re asking someone out on a date, have an important sports game coming up or you may even have a dreaded job interview on the horizon. At a job interview, a sudden attack of nerves or anxiety could potentially lose you the job. However, with simple treatments from me and the Anxiety Hypnosis specialist with The Nexus Team Hypnotherapy in Birmingham and Walsall, you can take control of your anxiety and banish your interview nerves for good.

How can I control my nerves and anxiety during a job interview?

There are also a few practices that you can follow to help control your pre-interview nerves and ensure that your interview goes as smoothly and successfully as possible: STOP your Stressing right now!

Forward Planning…

This seems like a simple thing to do right? Well, too often than not, job applicants enter the interview with little or no preparation and simply rely on their resume or personality to get them through the interview. This is fine if you are an individual who is full of confidence, but if you are susceptible to bouts of nervousness or anxiety attacks, a lack of preparation could be crucial. Make sure that you have gone through the interview in your head, over and over again for a few days before the interview. Practice the most common interview questions with a friend or family member and polish your answers. You can even practice in your interview clothing to make it seem even more realistic. Do thins with more than one person and even set up 3 or 4 people playing devils advocate. If you know of someone who does interviewing in their job, you may like them to test you out! Practice makes perfect, so to speak…

Pre-interview relaxation…

In the hours leading up to your interview, try to put yourself in a relaxed mood by doing something that makes you feel comfortable and at ease. This could be inviting a friend over for some green tea and chat, having a soothing massage or even listening to your favorite music in the comfort of your own home. Laughter is also a great relaxant, so stick on a funny movie or comedy show to help disperse your nervous thoughts.

Be open and honest…

One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to try to cover up your nervousness or anxiety to your potential employer. This can cause you to lose focus in your interview and concentrate more on hiding your emotions than connecting to the interviewer. Remember, it is perfectly normal to be nervous at a job interview and your potential employer will usually understand that this as part of the interview process. At the beginning of the interview you can say “I apologize, I am feeling a little nervous today” or “It has been a while since I was last in this position, I am a little nervous”. This will put both you and the interviewer at ease from the outset and calm your nerves significantly. An expert interviewer will see past you bluffing confidence.

What can I do next?

If you feel that your nervousness or anxiety could affect your potential job interviews then contact me at The Nexus Team Anxiety hypnosis today. With help from me, you can take control of your pre-interview nervousness and anxiety, ace that interview and land the job of your dreams!

Most of the time with interviews they look to see if they like you and could work with you and how well you would carry out orders and instructions also how well you know the vacancy you have applied for.

However at the end of the day you must realise that you feel you want a Anxiety professional to help you and get you confident, in control and be anxious free. The Nexus Team may just be the person to seek if you require a more in-depth assistance and better result.

So remember there are people to help if you suffer from being anxious, stress or a full blown panic attack. People not only in Birmingham and Walsall go though this but it is in nearly in everyone who judges themselves as suffering of lack of confidence or low self-esteem.

Interview qualifications a job candidate must possess on a checklist clipboard including experience, communication, education and other skills necessary for a new position in your career

If you’re ready and really want to change then feel free to contact me and receive my free complimentary consultation.
You can always download for free his 7 ways to Axe-Anxiety.

Good luck with your future employer.

Helping you towards success.

The Nexus Team from Anxiety Hypnosis.

 

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Fear of Flying Birmingham, Walsall is helping you

 

The Nexus Team Birmingham, Walsall Anxiety Hypnosis helping you… 

Conquering the fear of flying…

Conquering the fear of flying can be easy when you chose to put your mind to changing an old belief thought pattern. As you know we aren’t scared of everything in life as that would just be down right crazy.

Some people have a fear of dogs and you don’t, you tell them that they’re alright and nothing will happen to them. However the person really doesn’t believe you and then they start to panic, this will only subside when they and the dog are far away from each other.

This is how you have to think when you’re afraid of flying and wanting to conquer the fear of flying.

Don’t be afraid of the dark…

Here is another thought you can have that will get you to come to your senses so to speak. Remember a time as a child and you had a fear. This could have been afraid of the dark, you always had to sleep with the light on. No matter how many times you where told that there wasn’t anything there to be afraid of, you had to have the light on!

You don’t have to sleep with the light on now that you’re a grow-up, WHY? At some realisation in your mind you knew that you no longer needed the light on to sleep. When this happened you realised that you felt a lot better and more relaxed.

You have to take notice when I say fear isn’t real because if it was, you would still need that light to be on so that you could sleep.

What A brilliant mind you have!

Now I would like you to utilise this part of your thinking to exercise your brilliant mind to eliminate the part of you that is fearful of flying, because the fear isn’t real. I can imagine if you have a young child that you will be telling them the exact same thing as you where told that there’s nothing to be afraid of.

It’s all pretend…

When we have fears even though they aren’t real, if you say that fear of flying is real, then you will believe your own statement. On the other hand however, if you are told that you cannot do something such as amount to anything good, because this is a statement from another person we choose not to agree with them and you will go out of your way to prove them wrong.

One could say at this point that you haven’t got the guts to fly and you would feel bound by your word to prove me wrong and I could also say that I dare you?

Be a skilled warrior!

Now you have to start making better choices by moving forward to taking tentative steps towards accomplishing your goal of flying. If it helps you, think of that time of being afraid in the past and use your skills that you will conquer this forever as you are the brave warrior.

Lets face it at the end of the day you really don’t have to fly, but if you don’t conquer this you will be wondering what might have been and like the child with the light on you’ll always stay like that.

Now is the time to change…

So now is the time in your life particularly if your reading this that your getting ready to be Flying Fabulously with my help and support with the Flying Fabulously Tool Kit. If however you would prefer a one to one session if you feel that this would work faster for you In the Birmingham and Walsall areas with me The Nexus Team. I have over 10 years of experience in getting my clients over their fears, anxiety and phobias with Anxiety Hypnosis.
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Anxiety Hypnosis in Birmingham

Anxiety hypnosis moaning medal

A German giving out medals? 

A German man once told me how the British public could get a medal for moaning, He was a manager in the UK, although he had worked around the world, but he said how bad the moaning was in this country. I must admit the way he was telling me in his very good but German twang of English was a bit like a sketch from Faulty Towers. But I had to agree that ‘Yes’ we could beat anyone at moaning

It is amazing how we can moan and moan about nothing. If you think about this and be truthful that we do moan as a British nation all the time, from the weather to everything else, as well as everything in between…

I presume this is why we have so many negative thoughts, fears and anxiety running through our brains all the time. Let’s face it,’ you become what you think’, it’s certainly not just the saying ‘you become what you eat.’ So it would make perfect sense to be highly strung, tense, with a dose of anxiousness thrown into the mix that people are ready to jump down the throats of other people if they should say anything disagreeing with a moaner.

Have you ever asked someone how they are, because you’re being polite and then they tell you how they got on at the doctors and bloody hell do they moan about what is the matter with them? I’m sure that these people have a PhD in whining.

The Vampire.

Notice how when these people walk away from you that you feel drained as they have sucked all your good energy out of you and now you’re left in a state and they walk away feeling better. These people are vampires of sucking good energy from people.

Certainly in the Birmingham area, many brummies have the wow factor in a good old moan. If you’re not careful the positive energy can be easily drawn out of you. This can be particularly bad if you’re not feeling very well to begin with. You may be one of those people where others always bring you their problems and dump them on you. Now how do you feel when they’ve gone??

Who Cares?

I know we can all get stressed and we’re all busy and we all have things to do and no time in which to do them in. But let’s face facts that the person you’re telling your problem to doesn’t really care. In fact as a nation, 70% don’t care and the rest are glad it’s happening to you and not them.
If you are one of life’s vampires then you are not helping yourself as you are poisoning your system. Imagine that it’s like you have been hypnotized to act really negative, in other words it seems you have made a very deep ruin of your life.

Having the same way of thinking and wanting a different outcome won’t happen, you have to change and I am here to help you if you wish.

But firstly it would be good to have a word with yourself to say enough’s, enough’s and you are going to change for the better. You will have to be brave and create new disciplines via order and structure to get the most out of you and your thinking.

Anxiety Hypnosis Can Help you!

You probably can feel tension in your body and maybe more in your shoulders and back. Then you need to take some time out and start to relax more. Usually the first time you do this, the pain of relaxing gets worse and this is a natural effect. But just go through that little pain barrier and you’ll come to the feeling of being relaxed. Give this ago. This way you will start to let go of anxiety and tension. Imaging all the people of Birmingham relaxing, then this would spread around the UK. …Ahhh what a great feeling that would be for everyone.

The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis is here to find out how you have conquered your anxiety and tension or any other related problem and lets spread the knowledge to others.The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis Birmingham and Walsall

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