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EMPTY NEST SYNDROME

Are you struggling with your eldest child leaving for university…

What is Empty Nest Syndrome?

Bags packed for university , Anxiety Hypnosis The Nexus Team can help Empty Nest Syndrome is a time when a child leaves the home to move away to university. This can be a heart wrenching time for both parents but especially for the mother. The shock of you being around your child for 18 years and now they have moved out can leave you feeling empty inside.

Although no one has died the same symptoms of grief and heartache are very much felt particularly within a loving family.

This is in every way a new chapter in life, how everyone has to adjust to the new challenges that life has brought you.

The Feeling of Grief.

There is a bag of mixed feelings surrounding the whole situation of what is happening. On one part you have to be happy that they are doing well and thriving, as well as being educated in their chosen field of knowledge. Of course with this double edged sword, you have the negative emotion that just seems to overwhelm the positives especially to begin with.

The feeling of loss and the emptiness in the house at certain times and the things you shared has this could be a time when you no longer have your child’s friends coming around either.

What Can You Do About It…

If you have experienced grief before, then you will recognise the similarity in the emotional feelings. It’s not good to hold onto the negative feelings, as indeed men (fathers) may do. Feeling like an emotional wreck right now, may feel like you’ll never get rid of this.

I think that you should give yourself permission to cry, and parents should be encouraged to express this together if their relationship can do this. This isn’t about a weakness but recognising that you are both feeling the same and this can be your strength. Although one part of the relationship may feel stronger and keep a sense of reality and calmness within the house hold.

Never feel bad about how you feel even though you think that it’s silly as this emotion needs to come out of you so that the healing can take place. It’s okay to avoid the negativity for a while as you don’t want to burst into tears while in the shops.

Your Time To Change.

You have the opportunity to rediscover yourself, but this may be hard as you have probably been at the beck and call for the family for many years. It is important that you have new challenges in your life, this will have to be your calling so to speak as everyone is different and you have to do what feels right.

You don’t have to have a a knee jerk reaction to doing whatever comes along. This could be joining a group with like minded interests. You can even start one of your own. There is an App called ‘meet-up’ as this can also be a way of you getting over your fears of either going out or being allowed to learn how to be you once more.

Anxious Times Ahead!

This can be an understatement of how you feel right now. Once you get over the initial shock and time moves on you will soon realise how time distortion kicks in and before you know it, they are on their way back home and you will be wondering why you felt the way you did.

In the meantime however, as all the new students at Birmingham University and of course the many universities around the country, students are all equally leaving grief stricken parents everywhere. Your kids are possibly feeling the same way, but they have new surrounding and new interests and certainly their new found freedom. So these kids are distracted to say the least, while you are at home crying your eyes out.

This is all natural, but this still leaves you feeling anxious because of wondering if they are okay and not getting into trouble etc…

Anxiety Hypnosis.

As I have mentioned that anxiety, fear, stress and grief play a major part in the overall well-being of you, that said if you don’t deal with this, then you too will suffer. It is documented that mothers particularly can get breast cancer and even brain legends** or scaring on the brain because of the child leaving home for the first time. Of course kids can leave home many times, if they are in a career that calls them away for months at-a-time.

You may feel like you only want to talk about how you feel and that’s okay, also you may want to try hypnosis to get a better understanding of yourself. This could be to help you find confidence to go out and face the world as a new you.

The Nexus Team can also offer EMDR (Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) ,this is a great way to help get your brain and especially your mind to cope better with the present situation. This also helps people with that grief feeling.
Anxiety Hypnosis also helps you by allowing the mind to readjust to the new immediate difficulties and help get you away from feeling like an emotional wreck. But you don’t have to feel at your worst to see me as you can have a free complimentary consultation to be accessed to see whether you would benefit from my help.

Help is Here.

If you need or require some help with either talk therapy or hypnotherapy to help you with how you are feeling right now and you live in and around the Birmingham area of Walsall etc. then contact The Nexus Team.

Give me a call to find out more, also I will help you every step of the way to help you with your recovery by helping you feel calm and confident. Helping to get you back in control, or contact me to help you with your particular situation and I will answer any questions you have.
Until then you can download my free 7 tips on how to Axe-Anxiety. Click HERE. Also get talking to family and friends to help put yourself at ease and soon everything will start to ease.

To Sum up.

Congratulate yourself for getting your child to be able to get into university and this is what you have all been working towards. Also that they are probably having a good time and this is a time when we all have mobiles and can easily stay in touch also with social media. Feel sad and cry if you need to, but don’t stay there and move forward. This was bound to happen but notice that it will become less traumatic each day and the rawness will fade. Above all don’t be to hard on yourself as you might have other children who need you attention more then ever now.

The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis offers a range of therapies that can suit you as not everyone wants to be hypnotised..

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Fear of Flying Birmingham, Walsall is helping you

 

The Nexus Team Birmingham, Walsall Anxiety Hypnosis helping you… 

Conquering the fear of flying…

Conquering the fear of flying can be easy when you chose to put your mind to changing an old belief thought pattern. As you know we aren’t scared of everything in life as that would just be down right crazy.

Some people have a fear of dogs and you don’t, you tell them that they’re alright and nothing will happen to them. However the person really doesn’t believe you and then they start to panic, this will only subside when they and the dog are far away from each other.

This is how you have to think when you’re afraid of flying and wanting to conquer the fear of flying.

Don’t be afraid of the dark…

Here is another thought you can have that will get you to come to your senses so to speak. Remember a time as a child and you had a fear. This could have been afraid of the dark, you always had to sleep with the light on. No matter how many times you where told that there wasn’t anything there to be afraid of, you had to have the light on!

You don’t have to sleep with the light on now that you’re a grow-up, WHY? At some realisation in your mind you knew that you no longer needed the light on to sleep. When this happened you realised that you felt a lot better and more relaxed.

You have to take notice when I say fear isn’t real because if it was, you would still need that light to be on so that you could sleep.

What A brilliant mind you have!

Now I would like you to utilise this part of your thinking to exercise your brilliant mind to eliminate the part of you that is fearful of flying, because the fear isn’t real. I can imagine if you have a young child that you will be telling them the exact same thing as you where told that there’s nothing to be afraid of.

It’s all pretend…

When we have fears even though they aren’t real, if you say that fear of flying is real, then you will believe your own statement. On the other hand however, if you are told that you cannot do something such as amount to anything good, because this is a statement from another person we choose not to agree with them and you will go out of your way to prove them wrong.

One could say at this point that you haven’t got the guts to fly and you would feel bound by your word to prove me wrong and I could also say that I dare you?

Be a skilled warrior!

Now you have to start making better choices by moving forward to taking tentative steps towards accomplishing your goal of flying. If it helps you, think of that time of being afraid in the past and use your skills that you will conquer this forever as you are the brave warrior.

Lets face it at the end of the day you really don’t have to fly, but if you don’t conquer this you will be wondering what might have been and like the child with the light on you’ll always stay like that.

Now is the time to change…

So now is the time in your life particularly if your reading this that your getting ready to be Flying Fabulously with my help and support with the Flying Fabulously Tool Kit. If however you would prefer a one to one session if you feel that this would work faster for you In the Birmingham and Walsall areas with me The Nexus Team. I have over 10 years of experience in getting my clients over their fears, anxiety and phobias with Anxiety Hypnosis.
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Anxiety is an Illusion

Your mind is playing with you.

Fear is the illusion of thought, do we live in a world full of illusions. Anxiety is an illusion but we’re connected to the fear and anxiousness all the time that we believe in it so much. That for some people it’s a constant threat on their mind and health.
What do I mean by the illusion? Have you ever been out walking and you see a dead cat lying in the road, when you get closer it’s a screwed up black plastic bag, yet just a few steps away, you believed that it was a dead cat.

Anxiety is an a illusion by The Nexus Team Anxiety HypnosisI know of someone who told me that one night they were walking down the road and they saw a settee in the middle of the road. When they got closer, it was the shading on the tarmac. The street lighting had made it a 3D image. It’s all an illusion and I’m sure you will have had your own experiences.
What colour is it?

How many times have you said that a colour is purple for example and someone else sees it as different shade and so on. And you cannot see how they can say it is the colour they think it is compared to your colour. Not so long ago we had the Optical illusion: Dress colour debate goes global. This was a dress that was seen as gold and white, blue and white, blue and blue or blue and black. It’s all an illusion.

Fact! There is no fear.

Anxiety, fear and stress are illusions and so believable that it’s hard not to believe in anything else. Also if you made the decision to state that you are anxious or have a fear of flying then that means you have been lying to yourself for a very long time. You may not want to own up to the fact that this isn’t true, so you created the lie and believed in it. In Birmingham I see many people who have suffered these exact same symptoms. So at Anxiety Hypnosis we use many tools to help people just like you to break their belief system and live an Anxiety free life. This works whether you live in Birmingham or in the rest of the country.

Tool kit thinking.

1) Stop trying to make sense of your anxiety.
2) Don’t judge anything to do with anxiety.
3) Don’t give any anxious thoughts any recognition.
4) Just for today, stand up to yourself and be fearless.
5) Chose a relaxing colour – now mentally paint your world that colour.

I realise that life can be hard and challenging, but you have to live a full healthy life and I can help you overcome your illusions of stress, anxiety, and fears.

Contact me.

Email me today with any thoughts you have concerning this subject and I will get back to you and if you really want to change, then book a free complimentary consultation.
In the meantime download my free E-guide here on how you can Axe-Anxiety with 7 axe busting techniques to help you. All free from The Nexus Team Anxiety Hypnosis.

 

 

 

 

 

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